Self confidence

We all know that self confidence is very important in doing things. The opposite of self confidence is low self-esteem.

In this post let's explore the reason for a person's self confidence. From my observation I can't help but notice people get their confidence from many things. To list a few, 

1. working in a big MNC (Multi National Company),
2. positions in workplace,
3. good reputation among peers,
4. car,
5. house,
6. money/networth,
7. good-looking partner (sexy, beautiful, gorgeous, popular),
8. branded stuffs (phone, designer's wear, expensive perfumes, handbags),
9. recognition from bosses,
10. nice body (six packs, slim model-like curves)

and the list goes on..

Now, what do you see in these trend in our world nowadays? All are external and material! No wonder people go through feats to achieve such things.
What about people who has low self-esteem till the point of depression? You notice the reason is identical, only opposite.

Why not look into oneself and find that self-confidence? Remember we were all once babies. We were born with no knowledge about anything. We learned step by step for everything from eating to talking to walking. So you see, self-confidence is in us all since birth. The problem is that we rely on the external factor to give us that confidence till we forgot to look inside ourselves. How about kind-hearted, faithful, peaceful, loving, sincere, humble, honest and many more.

Easier said than done. How? I've learned some things from Tony about NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). He says that if we continue to reinforce something positive, we'll eventually believe it even if it's not true. This theory is mentioned by Napolean Hill as well. I'm sure many more motivational speakers/writers have some sort of relevant theory, all you need is just one most suitable method for yourself. Of course it can be used for the negative as well, but why would anyone want to do that?

So, my conclusion is that stop imitating or looking-up to the rich to get your self-confidence. If the rich do not care for the poor and keep getting more for themselves, why should the poor lookup to them? But if the rich who're helping and contributing to the poor, then learn those characteristics for they are more precious than diamond or gold. And this is the intrinsic value we should build our confidence upon. Hope it helps.